Abstract
arXiv:2603.07211v2 Announce Type: replace Abstract: Direct Preference Optimization (DPO) has become a standard framework for safety alignment, but its reliance on pairwise preference updates makes training sensitive to imperfect supervision. Existing robust DPO methods often address this sensitivity through global loss corrections or external data-level interventions, while largely overlooking how unreliable comparisons distort batch-level optimization dynamics. We propose CompassDPO, a reward-free DPO framework that stabilizes preference optimization through dynamics control. Using the implicit DPO reward margin as a training-time compass, CompassDPO regulates sample influence along two complementary axes: update direction and update magnitude. For directional control, it applies sparse, budgeted, and warm-up delayed loss mixing to attenuate update components that conflict with the emerging preference direction. For magnitude control, it adaptively soft-winsorizes high-loss tail contributions, reducing tail dominance while preserving useful gradients from hard examples. Both mechanisms use only signals available during standard DPO training and require no external reward model or additional supervision. Experiments on PKU-SafeRLHF across four backbones and multiple out-of-distribution safety benchmarks show that CompassDPO consistently improves robustness over vanilla DPO and strong DPO-family baselines, especially under controlled label-flip noise. Code is available at https://anonymous.4open.science/r/CompassDPO-4D00